College relationships are not something new. 90-95% of college students get involved in relationships and only about 15-20% last long leading to numerous heartbreaks, and emotional breakdowns. So, why do college relationships not last?
Simple, the main reason is cheating. College relationships hardly last mostly because either party or both parties cheat. Other reasons include:
- Long-distance
- Unseriousness
- Lack of interest
- Rumors
- Unbalanced schedule
Reasons Why College Relationships Don’t Last
Cheating
Seriously it’s college, it’s the best time of students’ lives with unlimited access to alcohol, hot girls, and drugs. No one would want to pass an opportunity to hook up with the hottest girl or boy in the class, and at that very moment whether you are in a relationship or not, you wouldn’t care at that moment. Cheating is a very rampant thing, especially in college.
Long-distance
Another major reason why college relationships don’t last is because of long-distance. It’s either people prefer dating their long-time partner from high school who happens to be in another college or dating a ‘hot guy’ that’s from another college. Long-distance hardly works mostly because of different schedules of each partner involved or different time zones (this affects couples in different countries). Most of the time, this would lead to one partner cheating on the other, then withdrawing and eventually breaking up.
Unseriousness/Lack Of Interest
I mean common, it is college, and no one wants to be involved or be tied down by a serious relationship. Everyone wants to explore, have the wildest parties, etc. You can hardly find 2 partners that are seriously committed, there’s a 1% occurrence of such in every college.
Being committed takes a lot of work that most college students are not willing to put in, I mean after the difficult courses they have to put up with at school, they do not want to be stuck with only one partner, students want to let loose, no limitations which are why their relationships hardly last as they feel relationships restrict them from living that exciting life to the fullest.
Rumors
I mean imagine hearing your partner was with someone else and you end up confronting them but you do not even know whether they saying the truth or not, and worst of all; you cannot even prove if the rumors are true or not, it can be very frustrating especially when the rumors do not seem to end, it’s truly sad.
Jealousy And Insecurity
Students/young adults are becoming more insecure daily, girls want to have that ‘Kim Kardashian’ summer body, and the boys want to have ‘Anthony Joshua’s killer gym body. Social media makes it even worse because if you are not looking a certain way you are not considered pretty then you start to have self-doubts about why your partner chose you and all. This leads to jealousy and then little arguments and fights here and there and eventually the break-up. This can be extremely devastating.
Graduation
Graduation shows an entirely new world that’s beyond the four corners of a school. You meet new people, go on adventures, and travel to other countries and states, so it’s not surprising that people break up right before they graduate or on their graduation day because it takes a lot to maintain such relationships. Most people think they found their ‘Mr. Right,’ but after school, they realize that they are better options.
Conclusion
College relationships are really fun, it’s just a pity that a number of them end up breaking up before they graduate. Being in a college relationship helps you know what love feels like, according to research that’s why it hurts when a perfect college relationship just suddenly crashes. These relationships also serve as a learning process and help you grow mentally, physically, and emotionally. Of course, it hurts when students break up but that’s just life and not everything is meant to be and that’s why you have to be strong-hearted to be involved in one.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Do college relationships last?
According to research, only about 28% last and that’s if they are in the same college
- How do make college relationships last?
Trust, commitment, and emotional maturity is what I think would make a college relationship last.
- How to stay together through college
Make sure there is trust and commitment, and of course, you are both emotionally mature. Ensure you do not see them or are with them all the time, it wears out the relationship. And if it happens to be a long-distance relationship make sure you both have time for each other no matter how busy your schedule may be.
4) Do college relationships ever last?
Yes, they do, but on very rare occasions.