Examples of How to Respond When a Guy Says He Likes You

“I like you” these words can make or break your day. For someone who was hoping that he would confess his adoration for you, congratulations! But for someone who thinks that this is their worst nightmare, don’t worry, I got you. To fully understand how to respond to those three words, you first need to be clear with two things. Let us see some examples of how to respond when a guy says he likes you.

Examples of How to Respond When a Guy Says He Likes You

Examples of How to Respond When a Guy Says He Likes You

One, what a guy means when he says he likes you, and two, what are your intentions with the guy. When you have answers to these questions, you will know how to respond when a guy says he likes you, In this article, we will discuss the same and provide you with some examples to help you prepare.

What does it mean when a guy says he likes you?

A lot of girls have trouble understanding what a guy means when he says he likes her. From a guy’s perspective, it is kind of obvious what it means. 

Basically, when a guy says “I like you” all he’s saying is that he thinks you’re nice, he finds you attractive, and that if given the opportunity, he would like to get to know you better. The guy would appreciate building a friendship with you and get to know you. Maybe he could take you on a nice date. He is maybe hoping for something fruitful at the end of it, like a relationship or something like that.

Usually, it starts with attraction and I don’t mean just physical. When a guy finds you attractive, he will probably just come up to you and say “I like you”. It’s funny how many meanings three words can have. You have to remember that I am talking with respect to a sincere guy who wants something honest, long-term with you. I have to clarify because some guys come up to you with negative intentions. They’ll say they like you and take advantage of you, which is something that you have to be careful with. 

What do you feel when someone says they like you?

There are four different situations to “I like you” and depending on where you stand, you have to respond appropriately and truthfully.

• Let’s say that the person who said he likes you is your crush. Hearing the words “I like you” from the person that you like is reason sent by God to a desert. So this is the first situation. He likes you and likes him. Now, your ego, your self-image rises to peaks hearing those words, it will literally just mushroom overnight, and it’s going to be the best feeling for you but the worst for everyone else as they have to deal with you. You feel more attractive and confident.

Then you start measuring up your life with them. You will start thinking about your future with them. It gets pretty unrealistic as things always change and you can’t expect everything to go happily. Then you get into the “stalker phase,” where you start paying more attention to them, you start looking into their past, and you stalk them on social media.

• Now let’s say the person that said he likes you is someone that you hoped wouldn’t confess his feelings for you and now that he has you wish he would take it back and say something like “I was just kidding” but he isn’t. He likes you. And it hit you like a thunderstorm. You dread seeing him and hope to avoid confrontation. You will get irritated hearing his name or anything that he does (quite the opposite of the first case). You will do anything to not see him so that you can buy some time to figure what to do with it. You don’t care if you don’t get to see him anymore, as it doesn’t mean anything, and that’s okay. We all have the right to be with someone that we love. We need not just be because they said “I like you” and out of mere politeness, you stay with them. That’s wrong.

• The third is when the guy says he likes you and you like him too, but just a friend and nothing more. You enjoy his company but are not looking for a relationship with him. Just as in the second situation, you too will avoid confrontation and try to figure out the right thing to say because it’s hard to avoid feelings and just be friends. You don’t want to lose him as a friend and do not want to get committed either, so you are stuck in between not knowing what to do.

• The final situation is a little complicated. It is when you are not sure of how you feel about the guy. You are not sure what your intentions are, which will drive you crazy. You will start looking for answers and advice from everywhere that’s available to help you make a decision.

What not to do when a guy says he likes you?

Now that you know where you stand, you have to learn about the stuff that you shouldn’t say to a guy who just opened up to you. You have to understand that it’s not easy for a guy to talk about his feelings as it lets his guard down. You have to appreciate him for opening up to you and not make him feel bad about that.

Here are some of the things that you should avoid saying to a guy that said “I like you” to you.

1. Do not be rude 

Cut some slack for the guy. If you don’t like him, put him down slowly, he confessed his likeness for you and he deserves to be treated with respect. Some girls just straight-up insult him, make a scene, and ruin his image. If you don’t like someone, it does not give you the right to be rude to them.

2. Do not avoid

Being avoidant is as bad as being rude. It’s the same if you think about it. When you’re rude you show it physically, even you are avoidant you ignore their feelings for you. Even if you are a very shy person, it doesn’t matter. Acknowledge the feelings of the guy.

3. Don’t say “I heart you too” just because you felt like you have to

You don’t have to say that you feel the same just because you feel obliged to. This will only create unnecessary complications and will lead to a bigger heartbreak. Don’t use stuff like “I heart you too” or “I fancy you too”. If you don’t feel the same way, just lower your posture, say thank you, and explain that you cannot be with him.

4. Don’t show that you don’t believe him

You might feel that the person is lying and is simply trying to mess with you. But whatever doubts you have, you must keep it to yourself. You might feel such a way because of various reasons, your low self-esteem, a wounded childhood, or someone might have said you in the past that you are not worthy of love. This results in disbelief when someone says they like you. You have to deal with your insecurities and believe that the person now likes you.

How to respond when a guy says he likes you?

When a guy says he likes you, most of them feel the need to reply to something to avoid awkward silences. Here are a few examples to help you go through it effectively.

I have stated examples based on all 4 situations. Hope it helps you.

• If you like him too

Show the excitement, look into his eyes with a smile on your face and say either of the responses:

1. “I never believed you could say that, [Marshal]! I like you too but was too afraid to say that first.” 

2. “Thank you for telling me! I hoped to hear that one day as I also like you, [Marsh]”. 

3. “Wow, that’s surprising! And it’s mutual! I like you too!”

4. “To hear that from a person I like is a great joy!”

5. “Finally, you said that! You made me wait for too long.”

• If you do not like him

Be sad and talk politely with a low voice, show him Respect and say:

1. “[Ted], thank you for considering me deserving of your attention and affection. But I can’t accept your feelings.” 

2. “I don’t think of you that way, [Barney]. But I’m glad you told me and we figured it out now.” 

3. “won’t lie, [Ross], I don’t feel that kind of feelings for you.” 

4. “I am pleased to hear that, but can’t say the same. I’m sure you will find a great girl, but it’s not me.” 

5. “I would never want to upset you, but I must say that I’m not interested in you, [Joey]”. 

• If you like him as a friend

This is harder because you’re not just rejecting, you are also hoping to still have the friendship. You have to understand that it‘s hard to let go of feelings. With compassion in your voice you say:

1. “I see you as a friend only and I’m sorry if I somehow made you think otherwise.”

2. “[Chandler], you know I appreciate our friendship and I don’t want to break your heart, but I don’t have romantic feelings for you.” 

3. “[Baxter], I’m glad you told me that, but I must also be honest, I would like to stay friends for now.” 

4. “[Dexter], you are a great person, and I like you, but not in a romantic way. If there is a way we can keep our relations friendly?”

5. “You surprised me. I like you, but I’d hate to give you the wrong idea. I have only friendly feelings for you. Can’t we just stay friends?”

• If you are unsure of how you feel,

It happens a lot, and that’s okay. With concern in your voice, say:

1. “That’s so pleasant to hear someone likes me for me. Thank you! You made me happier! But for now, I can’t say the same. I hope you understand. I don’t want to lie. Let’s just get to know each other better!”

2. “It’s so nice of you to tell me. I need some time to think about it.”

3. “Wow, you are fast. To be honest, I can’t say it’s mutual today. I doubt my feelings and don’t want to lie to you. I need more time if you don’t mind.”

Now you know how to respond to “I like you” the next immediate question is “why do you love me or don’t love me”. Let’s look at some ways.

How to respond to “why do you love me,” or “why do you not love me”

Here are some ideas

• Why do you love me?

Answering this can be frustrating, considering you don’t know much about the person. Instead of being rude and not replying to anything, you could make them feel good about themselves by telling stuff like:

1. “You make me better.”

2. “With you, I can be myself.”

3. “You are my best friend and my family.”

4. “Only you know how to make me smile.”

5. “You always let me pick a movie.”

This way, you are appreciating their love for you, making them feel valued.

• Why don’t you love me?

If you refused the person, don’t be harsh and start insulating him for his weaknesses. Just apologize and let him down easily. Be firm and let him know that you don’t feel the same way and that he’ll find someone else.

Conclusion

Having someone say “I like you” can be a huge deal. When a guy says that he likes you, he means that he adores you and finds you attractive. If it is a decent and sincere guy, he means that he wants to be with you and expects something more like a good relationship with you. There are four kinds of situations to “I like you”. It’s either you like him back, you do not like him back, you like him but as a friend or you are not sure how you feel”. If you like him, you can say something like “I’m glad you finally said it, I like you too!”. If you don’t like him, your response should be something respectful such as “I’m so sorry but I don’t feel the same way”. If you like him but only as a friend, this is hard. So be compassionate in telling something like “I’m glad you told me this but I guess it’s better for the both of us to just be friends”. Finally, when you’re not sure of your feelings, you can ask for some time to figure out it by saying “it’s great you confessed but I need more time to figure it out”. By knowing how to respond, you can save yourself and the guy with unnecessary complications.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
  • How do I know if a guy really  likes me?

From a guy’s perspective, when he says “I like you” he means that he likes you. It’s pretty straightforward. But let’s say for some reason you don’t seem to believe him. There are some subtle signs to help you recognize his adoration for you.

  1. He makes constant physical.
  2. He remembers the tiniest details about you.
  3. He makes eye contact when he talks.
  4. He makes an honest effort to have conversations with you.
  5. He acts all macho around you.
  6. He gets jealous when you talk to other guys.
  7. He helps you with your problems.
  8. He teases you and then looks for a reaction from you.
  9. He’s talking about his plans with you.
  10. He is a different person around you.
  11. He dresses to impress you.
  12. He buys you stuff.
  13. He defends you at any cost.

Look for these sure signs to know if a guy likes you.

  • How to tell a guy that you like him?

Confessing your feelings can be hard, especially when you don’t know how to do it. We live in a society where it should always be a guy to make the first move. But if you ask me, that’s complete crap. I believe if you like someone, you shoot your shot. With the right move, you can score yourself a date with the guy you like.

Here’s how you prepare:

  1. Make sure you look your best when you go to talk to him.
  2. Remember, if you get shot down, that’s okay.
  3. Be confident and don’t forget to smile.
  4. Be sure that he is single.
  5. Don’t give out mixed signals.
  6. Ask him out somewhere private
  7. Start with a simple conversation.
  8. Ask for help
  9. Practice! Practice! Practice!

These tips should be enough to help you ask out your crush. Be sure you are friends with the guy first. Also, be sure about your feelings and then decide to make the next move.